When you meet a person who is blind or visually impaired, don't feel uneasy.  While I do not wish to be pitied or treated differently, it will help both of us if you are familiar with a few simple rules of courtesy:

• I am an ordinary person who happens to be blind.  Please don't ask my spouse or guide if I would like something; I prefer to speak for myself.  Since I am usually listening very carefully, there is no need to shout.

• While I am accustomed to doing things for myself, there are times when I would welcome the assistance of a sighted person.  If you're not sure that I need help just ask, "May I help you"?  I will not be offended by your offer and I will tell you "yes" or "no thanks", but please accept whatever response I give.

• If I accept your assistance, please don't grab my arm and push or pull me around.  Simply allow me to take your arm.  I'll keep a half step behind to anticipate curbs and steps.  Going down stairs I prefer to hold the railing.  Of course, it is always helpful if you tell me when we are approaching stairs, curbs, or other obstacles.

• When I enter a bus or restaurant, don't be timid.  Ask if I would like help finding a seat; do not leave me standing alone at the door.  You may place my hand on the back of the chair and I will seat myself.

• I'd like to know who is in the room with me.  Speak when you enter the room so that I know you are there.  If others are present, please introduce me to them; include children and tell me if there is a cat or a dog. 

• An open door is a hazard to me; as are toys on the floor.  Watch out for protruding obstacles... I hate to break things.

• At dinner, tell me where the food is on my plate: "Meat at 12 o'clock, peas at 3 and potatoes 6."  I can tell you how I am accustomed to arranging things, or if I need help.

• Don't avoid words like "look" or "see".  I use these words too.  I'm always glad to see you!

• I don't want pity, but please don't talk about the "wonderful compensations" of blindness.  What I've learned has been by hard work.

• If I'm your houseguest, show me around.  Help me locate the bathroom, closet, dresser, window, outlets and light switches.

• I enjoy being included in conversations.  I usually rely on radio and television to keep me up-to-date on news and information, so I am as well-informed as the average person.

• After engaging me in conversation, please tell me when you are going to leave so that I do not go on talking to an empty chair!  Also, please don't tap me on the shoulder or disguise your voice and ask, "Do you know who this is?"  Guessing games may be fun at times, but if I don't recognize your voice, I will be embarrassed.

Thank you for caring and taking the time to read these helpful hints.